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Staci Hoover
Jaimee Draper
Carlye Begnaud
Brad Swaback
Adam Krauklis
Andy DeVore
Brian Medaglia
Bryan Darge
Nicolee Thompson
Jeff Harbeck
Mark Perdue
Shannon Olsen
Ty Gooch
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We’ve
Lost a Son!
It’s 3:00 a.m. and my mind is bursting with sadness
I cannot sleep, I only weep?
How can that be? I always sleep?
Even when the my mind is racing, even when my heart has lost it’s
song
I’m wide awake, I’m gonna break
We’ve lost a son!
I dropped my own boy off at college today
I didn’t sigh, I didn’t cry?
How can that be? What’s wrong with me?
My son so loved has left the house and altered family feeling for
all time
The day of dread, but no tears shed?
We’ve lost a son!
A Pastor sees it all the time
A sister dies a husband flies,
To heaven’s shore, to be with God, and know a joy that’s
far beyond compare
But not like this . . .
A grief that flows, and grows and shows,
We’ve lost a son!
No words can say what echoes in the heart
It now appears, our deepest fears
These lines must fail to capture what the human soul can never comprehend
We’re shocked, and rocked . . .
Can time erase, his wondrous face?
We’ve lost a son!
Parents die, It’s part of life!
They leave, we grieve,
And life goes on unbroken, as the cadence of the clock cannot be stopped
There’s no category for this, are you listening? it’s not the same!
Your cliché prone, we’re all alone
We’ve lost a son!
I sense a warming touch upon my spirit
I’m wrong, I’m shown, I’m not alone!
The kind of understanding that can only come from sharing something deep
God’s heart is broken too!
So He’d forgive, so I might live,
He lost a son!
What kind of Father makes this staggering choice?
Only a love , that’s from above
Would crucify heaven’s treasure, so that my unworthy soul could be redeemed
God’s love is Awesome!
Yes now I see, for one like me!
God Gave His Son!
Dr. James MacDonald
(for Mitchell Swaback, died age 23 and the Swaback Family)
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I am the oldest cousin on our side of the family. I vividly remember being jealous of the slew of girls and boys that were born close together. I remember organizing the Christmas plays (Mitch made the spaziest baby Jesus ever!) as well as being a human jungle gym. Jeff, Mitch and my brother Kevin would run around like maniacs. The flashback of those moments stir up fond and random memories. I remember Mitch’s bowl haircut, his boundless energy, how lean and muscular he was as a kid. I remember every time he walked it seemed like his bounce was so full of energy that a simple step just wouldn’t do. One family Christmas when Mitch was in junior high I remember him sharing through tears with the family how much he loves his mother and wants her to be healed from lupus. Mitch was so much more than that jump in his step; his heart was one of profound love for those around him. I had never seen that side of him until that Christmas evening a decade ago. How lucky was I.
As a teen, I was so full of adolescent angst (sorry mom and dad!). Although I accepted the Lord at a young age I didn’t claim His Promises for my own until my early 20’s. I feel connected to Mitch because his path was a bit rocky as well. In the end the faith he claimed was so strong and so evident, instead of being bowled over by Mitch’s presence, I was bowled over by the presence of God working through Mitch.
The evening of Mitch’s passing; my Auntie called and said that Mitch was in Heaven. I layed on our cold kitchen floor for a good hour in shock. The Lord wanted Him.
Mitch was active in many ways athletically. As an athlete myself, how can I continue Mitch’s legacy by using my athletic talents? I will be honoring Mitch by doing a triathlon to help raise money for his foundation. I realize that if Mitch were still with us today he would call me a complete idiot for what I’m about to take on! Those honest, feisty comments are something I miss. This one’s for you Mitch, I will take talents God has given me, much like you and finish the race we are called to complete.
Isaiah 40:31
But those who wait on the Lord will find new strength. They will fly high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will Walk and not grow faint.
Staci Hoover (Mitch’s Cousin)
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9-09-05
Tribute to “Mitchie”….
“Mitch.” For those of us who knew him, hearing or saying the word meant more than just some guy’s name. “Mitch” brought up a chain of stories or events to talk, laugh, or reminisce about, whether we were with him, or just discussing him. Mitch was no ordinary man. He was one you couldn’t forget if you wanted to…and I know no one who would want to.
I grew up with Mitch and his sister Nicolee. We were cousins and friends since the day Mitch was born. I held Mitch in my “four-year-old” arms when he was only a couple weeks old. I knew from the start we’d be buddies. My brother, Jeff, and I were with our cousins all the time. We were blessed to grow up with such close cousins in age and similarities. Although, there were much shared interests and beliefs, there were also differences. God made us each in a unique way to be used in our lives to glorify Him, and stretch and teach each other.
I always admired Mitchell’s boldness and what seemed a lack of fear. He would sense my cautious worry and often say, “Don’t worry about it! Nothin’s gonna’ happen”. He meant that even if something wasn’t going to go exactly as planned, God had it under control. Mitch’s faith allowed him to accomplish and grow in ways I pray I will grow in as well.
Another part of Mitch’s spirit that I often talked about until he went to be with the Lord was his sensitivity. Mitch had a bold and brave demeanor, that often became somewhat overbearing, but it could never cover the gentle heart and love he had for others. He loved Jesus, and allowed Jesus to show compassion to others through him. I witnessed the “Bear-like” physique turn to tenderness as his gentle spirit shed tears for others several times.
I sometimes wrestle with the “why” God took Mitch at age 23. Mitch might say that the #23 is a great number for Chicago sports fans like himself “Dude, we have Michael Jordan (23) and Ryne Sandberg (23)!” If told that he would be leaving this earth at 23, he would’ve probably said, “It’s my time”, without worrying about how young that age is considered on this earth. The “why” may never be fully known on this side of heaven. What we all must wrestle with is the “where” am I with my relationship with my Father? Not one of us knows the appointed time God has for us to be done with this earth. We are here for a purpose…each one of us his own. Do we have a relationship with the one and only heavenly Father God, Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ?
I am so thankful that I have heard the Truth, and have had the opportunity to know my Savior, Jesus. I have accepted Him as the Forgiver of my sins and the One who has given me eternal life through faith in Jesus Christ. Everyone who hears has that opportunity! I pray that if you don’t know the Father…the same Father who Mitch knew, that you will talk to God, who listens, and ask Him to be your Savior. The Bible says to “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shall be saved!” It also says in Romans 6:23 that, “The wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” It’s free! All we have to do is believe in Jesus and ask Him to forgive us of our sins and wipe all that sin away.
I remember at one Christmas family get-together, Mitch stood in front of the family and recited Proverbs chapter 3 from the Bible. He also had a verse from that chapter on his computer before he went to be with Jesus. Proverbs 3:5 & 6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” In a world of so much uncertainty, choose to turn to Jesus today. He loves you and wants you to spend forever with Him…and Mitch.
Jaimee Draper
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Mitch
and I met in 2000, but didn’t become good friends until 2001.
I can’t really say that I remember the first time we hung
out, but once we started to, it became a very regular, if not daily
occurrence for about 5 or 6 months. At the very least, we talked
or emailed everyday. Mitch moved into a condo about 4 miles up
the road from me during this time. The first day I visited him
there, I discovered that my apartment keys let me into his building.
From then on, I would let myself in and just knock on his door
or just walk in and announce my arrival. We both wondered if we
should tell someone about the security issue but never did. Mitch
came over one Saturday and painted my kitchen. He took the liberty
to tear down the regulated blinds that the landlord had put up
because he thought they were ugly. He also painted over the thermostat
in the kitchen, which to this day is light green and almost unreadable.
Mitch always cared about what was going on in my life. If someone
hurt me, he would always want to go beat them up. I never let him,
but I’m pretty sure at one point, if I had given him the
okay, he would have.
itch knew that I wanted to go back to school
full time, but because of debt and living expenses, I would not
be able to get by working less than full time. At one point, over
the course of a couple of weeks, he and I had many a talk, even
arguments, about him wanting to work two full time jobs so that
he could give me money to go to school. He didn’t understand
why I wouldn’t let him. Mind you, Mitch and I were just friends.
I told him that I wasn’t comfortable taking such a huge gift
from someone that was only a friend, simply because I would never
be able to repay him. He repeatedly told me that he didn’t
care, he just wanted to do it for me and I was foolish to not accept
it. I must have asked him to close the case on that one because
we eventually stopped discussing it, but he would remind me from
time to time about the offer I’d refused.
Mitch and I used
to go to the city every Saturday morning to work with the homeless
ministry at New Hope Church. We would hand out clothes and food,
hang out with the kids or just talk to the adults who came in.
Everyone there loved Mitch. He would talk to anyone. He had this
amazing way of showing interest in people that he didn’t
even know and loving people that he had just met. At one point,
he was nominated the bouncer for the ministry. I believe there
were a few times when he actually did have to hold people back
from fighting or stand in between people to ward off an argument.
Even though the ride with Mitch to and from the city on those days
was somewhat faster and a little scarier than it would have been
if I’d gone alone, I honestly felt safer with him being there.
It was nice to be able to look over my shoulder and see him and
know he was looking out for me.
Easter of 2003, I received an email
from one of my pastors regarding a massive Easter egg hunt that
would be taking place the following day at Cabrini Green (Chicago’s
toughest housing project) As I tried to think of which friends
I could get to go with me, Mitch came to mind. Even though we didn’t
hang out as much anymore, and probably didn’t even talk on
a regular basis. I knew he would join me, even with the last minute
invitation. Sure enough, I called him and he was in! He picked
me up early the next morning, a Saturday, and we headed to Chicago.
We spent the morning hiding colored plastic eggs that had little
prizes hidden inside, as well as keeping the kids out of them until
the hunt actually started. Later that morning, Mitch played basketball
with the older neighborhood kids while I did crafts with some of
the younger ones. I’m pretty sure the only thing he complained
about that day was the heat (it was unusually warm and humid for
April), but that was always something he and I disagreed on anyway.
He would come over in the summer and loudly wish that it would
snow, as I was enjoying the heat and the sun. I thought he was
kidding at first…….
Others have mentioned how Mitch
had a way of making them feel like they were the most important
person in the world to him. He made me feel the same way. He listened
when I’d call to tell him something; he remembered things
that I didn’t even remember that I’d told him and he
was genuinely concerned about things going on in my life. Mitch
was
the kind of friend I knew I could call at anytime, day or night
and if I needed help, he’d do whatever he could to help me.
Last year, Mitch was one of two important people that the Lord
took out of my life and brought home to be with himself. I’ve
realized that losing someone you love is really hard…wishing
you had let them know how much you value them is something that
might never
go away. But losing someone you know loved you is possibly harder.
Suddenly you feel a little lost without that person….knowing
that you don’t have that ear on the other end of the phone
anymore, or that shoulder to cry on or those arms to hug you when
you just need a hug. Losing Mitch has really made me look at the
way I treat the people God has placed in my life. Do I tell them
that I love them often enough? Do they know that I find value in
them and think they are special? I have been trying my best lately
to let people know these things and I believe that I have Mitch
to thank for that.
Carlye Begnaud
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On a very cold June morning, we awoke from the buzzing hotel alarm
clock that was set for 3:30 a.m.
As we dragged each other out of bed, we forced our way into our
wet suits, jumped into our truck, headed one mile east to Winthrop
Harbor where we launched our wave runners into a very silent, calm
and dark Lake Michigan. Despite the warnings from early morning
fisherman that our wave runners were not supposed to be out in
the darkness we idled slowly out of the marina. We high fived each
other as we passed the empty coast guard vessel knowing they would
be all over us if they saw us. Our plan was to slowly go out two
miles on Lake Michigan and then wait. We wanted to experience what
it was like to have an unobstructed view of the sun rising over
the horizon. As the sun started to rise we were amazed at the site
we saw. It literally felt like it was only a few miles ahead of
us. Without hesitation we both hit it and took off towards the
sun. Most people ride off into the sunset, that morning we experienced
riding into the sun rise letting out screams of excitement until
the sun had final separated itself from the water. At least five
miles away from the shore by now, we turned off our engines, turned
our bodies around, used the handle bars as a back rest, put our
feet up on the seats and just floated. To this day I remember saying
to Mitch, this is one memory that will always belong to you and
me.
Little did I know that 14 years later I would be working with Mitch
on a daily basis. The same energy, excitement and craziness that
I experienced that morning was as strong as ever and so was he.
Mitch developed into a strong young man who I was privileged to
have shared so much of his life with.
On any given day Mitch always seemed to be in the middle of things.
For Mitch, it wasn’t about the personal attention, it was
about him wanting to share life, problems and situations with those
whom he loved and cared for. Although one might argue that from
the outside looking in.
His personal trademarks of being loud, somewhat irritating and
somewhere north of the crazy line were known by all. But those
things were small in comparison to the love he had for others.
Under that rough and tough body of his, there was a soft gentle
heart that was ready to share tears for anyone he knew, Mitch had
a heart of pure love, for God, his family and his friends.
When I asked Mitch’s cousin, co-worker and best friend Jeff
to describe Mitch in one word, what would it be?
His answer was one that I know most would agree with and that word
was; “loyal”.
It didn’t matter what battle you were facing, what game you
were playing or what challenge needed to be conquered you could
count on Mitch to be there.
Mitch was dependable, hard working, helpful and even when it was
out of his league he was always ready to step up to the plate and
take a swing and it didn’t matter who was watching.
If you were choosing teams, you would pick Mitch, if for nothing
else but the fact that he would give a 100% and would always try
his very hardest.
At work, Mitch accepted guidance, was eager to learn and was striving
for the excellence that he watched his father display on a daily
basis.
Mitch always received discipline well, was quick to say I’m
sorry and I’ll try harder next time.
Mitch also brought the lighter side to work, whether it was a 100
copies of a persons image strategically placed throughout my office
so no matter what I opened up or what page I would turn to, I would
bust a smile.
He would hide 1 inch figurines of men dressed in different themes
in my office; on a ledge, looking over the top of my monitor or
on top of the door. Until you spotted them they were always staring
at you.
Mitch would always complain about his office being to hot and always
bug me to have the thermostat lowered that was right outside his
office door. He couldn’t do it because of the clear locked
plastic case that surrounds the thermostat. Today, taped to the
inside of that clear case is a 1 inch policeman figurine that guards
that thermostat. I chuckle inside just about every time I walk
by there.
Mitch always had phrases that became contagious, whats up, I’m
straight, Boo-ya and the Mitch classic used mainly after he was
yelled at; what-ever dude.
But the one that will always be special is when it was time to
go home, Mitch would come into my office, we would hit fists and
then he’d say; pizel - code for peace out.
Mitch allowed me his world, I always got amped up by his energy
and his intensity and he would always egg me on by saying;
Come on old man. Ever since I can remember Mitch was always trying
to take me down and when he finally had the chance to (and I knew
he could) I would just remind him that I was not only his uncle
but his boss; so I win, that drove him nuts!!!
I’m going to miss him, I’m going to miss his voice
echoing through the halls at work, I’m going to miss him
calling me in the afternoon to see if I want a coffee from Dunkin
Donuts and most of all I’m going to miss him sneaking up
behind me and giving me the tight and sometimes elevating Monday
morning hug!
There will always be a place in my heart for Mitch, it’s
a giant void that will never, ever, ever be filled, it will always
belong to him and he will never be forgotten.
Brad Swaback (Mitch’s Uncle)
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It
was a privilege to have Mitch as one of my closest friends.
Along with Mitch’s cousin, Jeff, we worked together, worked out
together and had a whole lot of fun times besides. Occasionally,
I was lucky enough to run into Mitch at church and worship along
side him. I now look at those times as our best times together.
Mitch was very much a guys’ guy, and I might add, the girls
took a liking to Mitch as well. Plain and simple, everyone loved
Mitch. I can’t tell you how many friends of mine, who after
meeting Mitch for the first time, would later come up to me and
say, “your buddy Mitch is awesome!” Of all the
people I have known and will likely ever know Mitch took the
cake when
it came to likeability. He had an energy that drew people in.
There was never a dull moment with Mitch around.
Two weeks prior to Mitch’s passing, I was blessed with the
opportunity to spend an entire Saturday with him. After a day of
golf, good conversation, and tons of laughing, we drove from Wisconsin
back to my house where my wife, Emily, and 3 children had been cooped
up all day. The drive back began with discussion about the mischief
we had gotten ourselves into during our younger days. Our conversation
then lead to spiritual things, important things—such as how
the Lord was changing us and how we desired to serve him whole-heartedly.
Mitch had a huge desire to grow into the man that the Lord wanted
him to be. We then pondered what heaven might be like. We finally
came to the conclusion that whatever it was like, it was sure to
be amazing and beyond the comprehension of our earthly minds. Little
did we know that Mitch would soon see the glory of the Lord and have
answers to all the questions we could have possibly come up with.
Praise the Lord!! We then arrived back at my house. The moment Mitch
walked in the door he went straight to my two oldest children, Anna
(2) and David (1). That was the moment when “big tough Mitch” that
we so often saw, brought himself down to the level of a toddler.
Talk about a goof ball; I had never seen anyone play with my kids
as energetically as Mitch did. It quickly became obvious that there
was no limit to what Mitch would do to get a rise out of my kids,
and a rise he got. Anna was so taken with Mitch that she actually
started to blush. Afterwards she kept talking about the “nice
man”. That day I caught a phenomenal glimpse of Mitch’s
heart. Mitch had a big heart. The genuine sweetness and the love
for children that Mitch displayed that afternoon was the topic of
discussion between Emily and I before bed that night. “The
kids sure loved Mitch!”
So, what did Mitch teach me? I would have to say Mitch has taught
me that what really matters in life are the relationships you
have, what you have done to glorify the Lord, and most importantly,
a
proper perspective of who Jesus is. Mitch knew Jesus not just
as a good
man that lived over 2000 years ago, but rather as his Lord and
Savior who by grace freely offered him forgiveness of sin through
Christ’s
death on the cross. Because of Mitch’s faith in Jesus Christ,
though I greatly miss Mitch, I take comfort in knowing that he is
surely with our Lord. And that’s where I picture Mitch.
At the Lords feet singing praises to his name. I can only imagine
the enthusiastic greeting that awaits me when I see Mitch again,
in paradise!
Praise the Lord for Mitch’s life.
Adam Krauklis
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Mitch was a unique and awesome guy. We
always had a blast hanging out together as he always pushed me
to the next level when it came time to having loads of fun. As
a fellow “guy’s guy”, I related very well with
him. A majority of my bonding time was on the several weekends
away with me and friends camping and rafting the Wolf River. Each
time was an absolute blast. Some of my fondest memories were
more like moments of craziness and laughter. Mitch and I
were known for “accidentally” dropping bottle rockets
in our campfires and watching people scatter as they shot in all
directions. Mitch would push me to swim through rapids, raft
over waterfalls, and to jump off cliffs in a way that I would never
have done without him. Mitch had no fear and loved every
minute of life. I could go on and on with stories of the
good times I had with him. Also, away from the boys, I know
that my wife would say that Mitch was a kind hearted gentleman. She
made a point to tell me that one time when he stayed over at my
house; that he was a real gentleman and very appreciative of her
for her hospitality as he stayed there. I think what really
hit me the hardest about the loss of my friend was this love for
other people and his energized outlook on life. The times
we hung out were so memorable; he was always so happy and he always
treated me as if I was his best friend and brother. The more
I have met Mitch’s other friends I have learned that this
is how he treats everybody. Just to see the videos after
the funeral service of Mitch on mission’s trips and being
involved in youth groups impressed me like I have never been. It
was no surprise, just a joy to see. Once again he is pushing
me to a new level, and this time it is to improve my witness as
I learn who I am to be in Christ. I know from knowing Mitch
that God wants me to bring that extra level of hard work, energy,
love, and friendship to my ministry as I witness to my brothers
and sisters in Christ. In memory, I miss you brother.
Andy DeVore
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I met
Mitch Swaback in December 2002 when I was serving as College
Pastor at Harvest Bible Chapel.
I was told by one of the other pastors that he would be coming
to the college ministry and that he had been going through a rough
time. I welcomed him to the group and told him that tonight was
special testimony time and that he would be hearing from other
young people about what God had been teaching them the past semester.
I didn’t Mitch to share because he was new to the group.
Just goes to show that I didn’t know who this guy was! With
a room full of strangers, he tearfully shared about how he was
going through a very difficult time with the death of his friend.
Mitch knew that he was going down the same path as his friend and
that he had to make some radical changes. The most painful change
was the rejection he felt from many of his “friends” when
he decided that he couldn’t party any more with them. He
was starting over and trusting God to help his find new friends
that loved Jesus.
Fast forward to Spring 2003. The college ministry is having a retreat
and I know God is going to be moving in a powerful way. Mitch calls
me aside and wants to talk. As a pastor, you cherish the times
when young people want to share what is really going on in their
lives. Mitch started to weep and I could tell his heart was broken.
He shared with me that he had never shared the good news about
Jesus with his friend that had recently died. More importantly
after we talked and prayed, he was convinced that God wanted him
to go back to his friend’s mom and share the gospel. Mitch
asked the entire college ministry to pray for him – that
he would show his friend’s mom love and be bold about sharing
the gospel. Many of us cried with Mitch and prayed over him that
night. God’s Spirit was working in Mitch’s life and
it was awesome to witness.
Mitch came to me and said that he felt God was calling him to be
on the summer missions team of 15 students and leaders heading
to Peru. Mitch’s work schedule was always hectic, but he
was confident that God wanted him to take time off of his job and
invest time in missions work. I was excited that Mitch was answering
God’s call but not because we could use Mitch’s construction
skills or strong work ethic, but because I knew that the primary
work God would be doing was making Mitch more like Christ through
this missions experience. And I saw first hand how Mitch was humbled
by spending time with the 60 children that we ministered to at
the Lima Children’s Home. These children were orphaned or
abandoned but God was still taking care of them at the children’s
home through staff that loved them. Mitch understood that he was
blessed many times over by spending time with these younger brothers
and sisters in Christ. And of course the kids loved Mitch – he
played with them and laughed with them. He took special care of
a young boy named Claudio that was often made fun of by the other
kids. He was a special needs kid and knew that he was different.
The other kids knew how to agitate him. But Mitch made a special
effort to play with Claudio. As a pastor, there are those times
when you get the chance to sit back and see young people maturing
in Christ right before your eyes and you are so proud. I was so
proud of Mitch that week.
In late July 2004, I knew I would be leaving
Harvest Bible Chapel and my heart was heavy. And then I got a
call from Mitch and I
knew we was going to chew me out for leaving! Mitch and I set up
a lunch time to say goodbye at Max and Ermas. Mitch and I talked
about his dream of going back to Peru and help to build a new children’s
home. He wanted to be a good steward of the time, talents, and
money God had given him. He also talked about learning to get more
balance in his life - say no to certain good things so he could
say yes to the best things. When you make transitions in life,
you know there are only certain people you will stay in touch with
long term. I anticipated Mitch and I being life long friends and
I looked so forward to laughing with him and seeing the plans that
God had for him unfold.
On August 13, 2004 I received a call at 4:00 AM that my father
had finally died of cancer. I was saddened but mostly relieved.
He had suffered greatly in the last few months and my family was
worn out because of his battle. But there was also the joy of knowing
that he was with the Lord. While in the hospital in June 2003,
my dad said he was open to being involved in a Bible study. Mitch
called and left a voicemail while I was in Atlanta and let me know
he was praying for me and especially that my dad would come to
Christ. And God answered Mitch’s prayer!
On August 15, I awoke and had a strong sense that I needed to check
my voicemail. It was Sunday and I was on vacation with my wife
Kimberly and I had every reason to not check it. But then I found
myself dialing and then hearing the voice of one of the other pastors
at Harvest. He had left the message after midnight and I knew by
the tone of his voice that something was wrong. Then time stood
still when I heard that Mitch had gone to be with the Lord on August
14, one day after my dad had died. A 23 year old man in the prime
of his life one day after a 67 year old cancer victim. I imagined
Mitch talking to my dad, swapping stories, and thinking that I
can not wait to be reunited with them both. My wife Kimberly and
I loved Mitch very much and considered it pure joy that God brought
Mitch into our lives. And through the love of Mitch’s family,
friends, and now the Mitchell Swaback Foundation, Mitch’s
life continues to impact lives for Christ. Amen!
Brian Medaglia
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Mitch Swaback was one of the
most unique persons you could have ever met. If you had had the
opportunity to meet
him or spend time alone with him you would know that his energy
just seemed boundless, as if his own skin couldn’t contain
the amount of energy and life that existed inside of him. I do
not know how anyone who knew Mitch could not be impacted by him.
It seemed that every time you were with him it was as if his life
energy would either energized you or you became exhausted just
trying to keep up with him.
I had the opportunity to share with Mitch’s dad Bob about
the uncanny ability he had with things. I’m not talking about
the ability he had of bringing some kind of damage to every car
he ever drove it seemed like. We were on a jobsite and we needed
to get into this room, but the door was locked with one of those
numbered locks. Amazingly, Mitch figured out the number combinations
and unlocked the door. We were amazed and asked Mitch how he did
it, and of course he didn’t know. But then, in true Mitch
fashion, he let the door close, and it locked. But not to worry
though, Mitch figured out that combination, not just once – but
twice, it was totally amazing and to this day I still shake my
head in wonder. But it’s one of those great memories I have
of Mitch that not only makes me laugh every time I think about
it, but in my mind it was one of those defining moments of Mitch
that just seemed to sum him up. One never knew how Mitch made it
through sometimes, but no matter what it just seemed he always
found a way to some how succeed. I always had the feeling that
the hand of God was constantly working overtime to help him.
Under that tough exterior Mitch liked to portray, was a very generous
and tender heart. He was the only other person, whom I knew, who
shared with me in seeing my wife baptized at the end of a church
service one Sunday afternoon. Instead of leaving the church right
after the service over, Mitch graciously stayed around to watch
her baptism.
Mitch is already tremendously missed. His high energy impact on
everyone around him just cannot be understated. Mitch seemed to
be the conduit that kept everyone around him together and positive,
and there was no pretension about him. I am thankful to God for
the brief period of time that I had of knowing Mitch, and I look
forward to, as do so many others, of getting one of his big bear
hugs in heaven one day.
Bryan Darge
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I don’t think one can truly
put into words what a family member means to them. As I try to
share with you
memories of my brother, I promise to fail miserably with only using
one page of words.
Mitch was equal to a ragging rock concert. I cannot remember a
single day that his energy, voice, and enthusiasm were turned down.
He lived his life on HIGH, he would try anything, talk to anyone,
and simply lived with no fear. There was only one Mitch!
Growing up with Mitch there were the usual sister-brother fights,
some playful, others not. But what stands out the most are the
memories of Mitch in the last few years. He had grown and matured
as I prayed he would and with the maturity came a protected heart
for me, his big sister.
Mitch constantly wanted to take care of me with his generous heart.
One of the last, BEST memories was of a Cubs game last May. A friend
and I were flying into Chicago for the weekend and he bent over
backwards to get bleacher Cubs tickets for us. I had no idea until
after Mitch went home to be with the Lord, how hard it was for
him to get those tickets. Without me saying a word, he just got
it done and we experienced one of the most entertaining nights
together watching the Cubbies take home a 2-1 victory! I believe
that night the entire rest of our seating section also enjoyed
themselves, thanks to Super Fan Mitch!
It’s ironic that this memory sticks out in my mind, because
the last time I spoke to my brother was a few days before his rafting
trip and the reason he called: He forgot to call me the night before
from another Cubs game! He told me about another great game and
I told him to be careful and have fun as he prepared for his trip.
With Mitch around no one ever felt uncomfortable or as they didn’t
fit in, he took care of that immediately and sought out those that
no one else would. He would do something stupid or funny or both,
and the outcome was always the same - the sound of laughter. Mitch
also sought out the Lord in his life and I saw more of that each
time we got together. He made it clear that he felt no shame
in loving the Lord. He never hid it or denied his Savior, and for
that I am most proud.
I can’t relate in words the depth that my brother will be
missed; parties will be not as loud, there will probably be more
food leftover, and there won’t be anymore Cubs game phone
calls. I will miss looking into his accepting eyes filled with
love, followed by a small grin and a huge hug. But I can smile
at the fact that he’s enjoying another party at this very
moment, a party hosted by God and attended by angels where on August
14th Mitch was the guest of honor!
Nicolee Thompson
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Mitch Swaback was a guy who lived
with no fear. No fear in life and no fear of death. He loved extreme
sports and pushing it to the limit. Whether it was attempting a
front or back flip while snowboarding off a huge jump we had just
built, or dropping a 20-ft cliff in Jackson Hole, he was always
the first to “hook it up”. I can remember a number
of times we would be carving our way down some remote bowl and
come to a stop when we noticed a drop up ahead. I would always
want to go check out the landing, but Mitch would just check it
out in mid air.
There was a reason Mitch lived with no fear. It was his rock solid
faith in Christ Jesus. Many people can recall hearing Mitch say
the words “I’m not worried about it; I know where I’m
going”. “If it’s my time, it’s my time…God
is in control.” You see, no one I have ever known has had
more confidence in his faith in Jesus Christ than Mitch. Mitch’s
spiritual gift was one of faith and anyone who really knew Mitch
knew that.
Mitch was also my cousin, my brother, my best man, and my best
friend. Words cannot describe what he meant to me in so many ways.
No matter what I was going through or where in the world I was
he was there to listen and love me. His loyalty as a friend was
unparalleled. I often said if there was one person in the entire
world I would want at my side in a dark alley it was Mitch. He
was the kind of friend who would not hesitate to get in front of
harms way for you. To say I will “miss him” does not
even scratch the surface of loosing a brother like him.
Thankfully, Mitch has left me the greatest gift a best friend could
have left. I have a daily reminder, from the example of Mitch’s
life, that each day is a gift from God. More than ever, I realize
that every day we have been given is precious. We should live each
day glorifying the Lord in a bold way. One of the Foundation’s
key verses, which was on Mitch’s computer, is Psalms 31:3, “For
You are my rock and my fortress; and for Your Name’s sake
you lead me and guide me.” This life is not about us and
what we accomplish for ourselves, but rather how we choose to use
the time we have to glorify Christ. Everything we have been given
is from Him, and therefore it is His and should be used to glorify
Him.
I have the confidence and promise that I will be reunited with
my brother in heaven because of the truth in God’s word.
John 3:16, “For God so loved the world that He gave his only
begotten Son that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have
eternal life.” Until that day I will continue to strive to
live a life glorifying to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Thanks,
Mitch, and I will see you soon.
Jeff Harbeck
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A Time for Everything
There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and
a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.
(BibleGateway.com)
As I listened to the memorial service for Mitch I could not help
but think that God, in His greatness and sovereignty, has the perfect
plan for all of His children.
His timing is so precise and gracious. I know your loss is great but His gain
is supreme. When Colee and I reflected the other day we discussed Mitch and his
early rebellious years. You know the rebellious years I am referring to, we have
all been there. But then to here the transformation of Mitch’s life and
the effect he had on those around him and the effect his life has on those now.
I know the time was perfect and that Mitch’s relationship with God is fulfilled
even as you read this.
Colee mentioned a daily journal that Mitch kept to document his relationship
with God and how you are just now learning the magnitude of that relationship.
I explained to Colee that no one knows your relationship with God better than
you do. That is what makes that personal relationship so precious. It is your
relationship (with God) and no one can ever take it away.
Mitch was a seed sower and even in his death the seeds are still being sown. “ There
is a time for everything” and Mitch’s time is now, let us rejoice
and continue his legacy.
God Bless,
Mark Perdue
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The first thing I ever said to Mitch was ‘Well
done’. It came after the first time I ever saw him or more
accurately heard what he had to say. My first memory of Mitch left
me thinking that he was braver than I could ever be. It was near
the holidays and the College ministry where I was a leader was
having a testimony night to share with each other all that God
had been doing in our lives. I don’t think we’d been
there a half hour when this big, blond guy came up to the microphone.
I knew right away he was new and I couldn’t help but listen
a little more closely. It takes a lot of courage to go up in front
of a room full of strangers to share something personal. That’s
when I learned his name was Mitch and his story blew me away.
But to this day more than the content of what he said I will remember
the tears that fell. His brokenness was clear. His repentance was
real. His calling was obvious. His tears moved me to tears. His
brokenness opened my eyes further to the depth of our Savior’s
unfailing love. His repentance forced me to check my own heart.
And both of us moved into our Father’s waiting arms again
that night. Mitch boldly proclaimed God’s faithful goodness
through the pain he was suffering. And then he made an even bolder
declaration: He had been challenged by Pastor James to seek out
his old friends (from a life he’d left behind) and share
the Gospel with them.
That night changed a lot of lives and I would know, I received
the questions and comments that followed. Life time believers wondered
if their faith could be that strong; their passion that evident.
Newcomers couldn’t deny God’s presence or His truth.
The broken had a comrade. The outcasts found a friend. The hope
of the faithful was renewed.
I don’t know about you, but as I reread that last paragraph
I can’t help but think that’s a pretty good description
of Jesus. Jesus came to earth and completed His mission: to save
us from an eternity apart from Him. Mitch came and completed God’s
calling for each of us: to become Christ-like. Knowing this, I
believe that the first words Mitch heard when he came face to face
with His Savior were ‘Well done.’ Just like the first
thing I ever said to Mitch after a testimony like that; or after
living his life for Christ, what else there to say? Except ‘Well
done.’
Shannon Olsen
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Very few people on this
earth display the impact
Jesus Christ has on their life by the impact that they themselves
have on the lives of the people around them. Mitch Swaback was
on of those people. Mitch was handsome, outgoing, lovable, caring,
loyal, and much more. More than anything Mitch was a man excessively
changed by his ever increasing commitment to be the man that God's
word called him to be. Mitch used every ounce of life God gave
him to eternally impact others lives through his personal relationships,
the college ministry, the sports ministry and on the missions trip
he was involved in at Harvest Bible Chapel. I will never forget
the day Mitch showed before everyone on the basketball court the
difference in being self-motivated and God motivated. The impact
he had was one that showed us all what it really looks like to
be sold out for Christ. Thanks Mitch for the example that you were
to us all that God can and will have his way in us, if only we
would choose Christ's ways above our own!
Sincerely Serving,
Ty Gooch
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